How do you make a New Yorker relax? Tie them up


New Yorkers have been know to go to extreme lengths to relax, from sensory deprivation tanks to working out at the “face gym.” But now, fit-to-be-tied New Yorkers are espousing the virtues of bondage as a wellness technique.

From fetish to forefront, it seems everyone from tense college students to lawyers are getting strung up to overcome feeling strung out.

When Brooke, a Brooklyn college student, tried bondage at a recent fetish party, she was suspended several feet in the air. Surprisingly not only her physical weight was lifted. She explains to the New York Post: “I was shocked. I gave up control of my body and went into this meditative state. I felt completely disconnected with what was going on around me. I became unaware of my weight.”

And a 27-year-old attorney in Harlem has gotten in on the mix, saying she now participates in the act of bondage as a platonic, meditative experience with friends. She explains, a male friend “came over and tied both of my legs together very tightly. I remained completely clothed and sipped a glass of wine. The blood flow decreased and I relaxed. It’s very pleasurable to just quiet my mind, which seems to be active all the time.”

For those that want to learn the fine art of tying one on — a rope on themselves, of course, “Erin Houdini” a 32-year-old Brooklynite teaches a biweekly roping class in her apartment. She trains others to use bondage in a non-sexually charged way.

But when on the other side of the ropes, she says her “favorite thing is to be hogtied — with my wrists and ankles attached from the back — and then being left alone.” Her personal sessions last from 10 minutes to two hours and by having her movements restricted she feels her worries fade. “I come out of it and feel as if I had been in a deep sleep. It’s one of the times in which I feel completely rested. It goes beyond sexuality — way beyond it.”

While initially it may sound wacky, according to Los Angeles-based psychologist, author and sex therapist Chris Donaghue, Ph.D., it adds rhyme to reason. “You let go and the rope provides you with something to focus on. Some people need the rope to get into this state.”